“What happens when people open their hearts?” “They get better.” – Haruki Murakami
Open Your Heart to Heal
When we are facing an illness whether temporary, chronic, or terminal, there are always things that we can do that help us to heal, even if it is just healing our hearts and opening to more JOY along the journey.
All healing starts with personal empowerment and intention. What we intend we help to bring about.
As I journey and dance with cancer, I am learning to both embrace and to be open to the gifts that it has to offer. One of the greatest gifts that I have discovered along the way, is that I do have a lot of personal choice when it comes to how I approach things.
For example, in everything that I do on a daily basis, I use the power of intention. What I mean by that is that I declare with intention that things are healing me and bringing me to a new level of health and peace of mind.
If I am drinking my morning lemon water that I made with love, I am also declaring and believing that this lemon water is healing my body and that my body loves it. If I am petting my cat Bella who lays on top of me, I am intending that as she purrs and oozes out pure love, I am being healed in every second of that encounter. I Believe and I Intend!
I do this all day long and with everything. It gives me a great sense of power in that not everything is outside of myself and that I do have great personal power to co-create in my healing and that my friends FEELS AWESOME! And the more awesome I feel, the faster I heal and the more I vibrate in the frequency of perfect health.
I hope that you too take personal empowerment seriously in your life and that you delight in using the power of intention and expectation. 🙂
Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future.”
When it comes to healing or even just getting through a rough day, it always helps to focus on our HOPES!
Avoid Pain & Seek Pleasure
As humans we naturally want to avoid pain and seek pleasure so this is perfect! It reminds us to seek JOY and to find gratitude in what we do have.
For me, I am finding that the best use of my time and energy with my recent cancer diagnosis is to get excited about today and my future. I focus on the JOY I can get from today. I squeeze out every moment of it and I also get excited about my future. I see and visualize the next phase of my amazing life.
I am letting my sub-conscious mind know that life is important to me and I that want to live and enJOY it for a long time. I want my sub-conscious mind to know that I have a plan and that I am creating a mental blue print for it and I know that my sub-conscious mind is always working for my highest good and answering my beck and call.
Today I got excited visualizing my new kitchen on the shores of Lake Superior where I will record videos of making healing foods and sharing those with others. A book title came to mind just yesterday “Healing On The Shores of Lake Superior”. 🙂
When I get excited about life and my future that I visualize, my cells jump for JOY! I can feel the happiness ripple up inside my body and soul and I KNOW that that alone is healing me!!!
This was the happy site I awoke to this morning and it made me smile. Last night I washed and prepared all of this goodness and I love looking at it! The colors are so vibrant and each piece of food has its own energy that one can feel if one taps into that. What a great way to wake up!
We often ‘forget’ to eat or to incorporate certain foods into our daily routine because as the saying goes ‘out of site, out of mind’, so here are 3 tips to help with incorporating more fruits and vegetables into your daily diet.
Prepare Your Foods
Spend time preparing your foods so that they are ready to go. For example, wash your fruits and vegetables with a non-toxic soap or with vinegar and water and let them dry on a towel. I use terry cloth towels a lot in my kitchen. I use them to dry veggies, to dry and pat lettuce etc.
Leave foods in plain site so that it calls out to you and that you are reminded to use it. I use a lot of glass bowls or containers to hold my fruits so I can display them and contain them. Foods have frequency so even having fresh fruits, for example, displayed in your kitchen adds a level of healing frequency to your house. These foods after all are ‘live foods’ and we are living beings so we resonate with these a lot.
Just Eat Them!
Just eat them anyway you can get them into your body. Whether it is straight away munching on an apple, throwing some in a smoothie, adding chopped fruit to a salad or trying a new recipe, just eat them! You win every time you eat one of these pieces of nature’s medicine.
I am diligently working daily at adding in nutritious foods to my daily routine and into my personal food protocol for healing and maintaining optimal health in my body. Fruits and vegetables are well known for their anti-cancer properties but they also are gems when it comes to providing nutrients to the body for healing purposes too.
I hope that you enJOY preparing and indulging in all of these gifts that nature has to offer. Have a great day everyone!
“He who has overcome his fears will truly be free.”
One of the things I have learned about fear is that I don’t like it 🙂 And this is why I strive to live fearlessly, no matter what is going on in my life. And I know this is not always easy and that is why I say “I strive to live fearlessly“. 🙂
When I am in fear, my cells constrict, my heart tightens, my stomach tightens, and I feel dense, and of course … afraid. I have really learned how to tap into and listen to my body and fear has its own frequency and as I said and will say again, I don’t like it!
So I decided many years ago that I wanted to live fearlessly and in JOY! And now that I have been gifted this journey of experiencing the role that cancer will play in my game of life, I feel no different. I have just upped my game. I am even more so determined to LIVE FEARLESSLY.
How Does One Live Fearlessy?
I have written many posts about fear as well as affirmations you can use and you can find them here:
I hope you find the articles helpful but the easiest hack to help with fear is to focus! Focus using your energy banks on things that make you happy and that bring you JOY! Yesterday I wrote about using energy banks in your day and this also applies to not using those banks to focus on fear which ultimately depletes your energy banks faster than anything else!
It seems that almost every day I have a conversation with at least someone about my new insight into ‘energy banks’.
Since my cancer diagnosis and with how my life has changed, I get at a deep, deep, level the significance of working wisely with our own personal energy source. I see the source as banks or batteries and in a day each bank that I have has only so much power and I choose where I use that power.
For example, I am using the majority of my banks and my power to focus on my healing and in clarifying my journey. I understand that without a shadow of a doubt, the highest and wisest use of my time is to zone in on making my life conducive to perfect health which includes many things such as high quality foods, supportive therapies, peace of mind and more.
In come my energy banks! In a day I must direct my energy and stored energy (there is only so much in a day) to where I need them to go to support my efforts.
I highly recommend considering this concept in your own life regardless if you have a challenging illness or not.
I will give you an idea of what I mean. Sometimes I will be having a conversation with someone about a ‘whatever’ topic and I might say something to them like “You know what, I am not really up to or interested in talking about this as I need to reserve my energy for my healing“. And they almost always completely understand :-).
When you are faced with your own mortality, things become real clear and really quick. Even when it comes to my overall diagnosis, prognosis, and therapies, it is often not something I want to go into details about because I am using my energy to keep my mindset positive and to focus on what I need to do in my day to heal.
Not that I don’t ever talk about these things. I find I am often sharing with others who are on similar journeys and it gives me JOY to encourage and inspire them along their journeys too, but I am very conscious of how much energy I expend and I monitor when I need to pull back.
Even with discussions, whether vocal or written, I monitor how much energy I expend and I question could this energy be better spend elsewhere?
Other People’s Energy
I also love the idea of leveraging everyone else’s energy when it comes to my healing and well-being which is why I never want people to think of me and to be fearful or worried. The best use of anyone’s thoughts or energy would be best spent thinking of me and seeing me as vibrant, healthy, JOYful, happy, and as Full-Speed Ahead moving into the next phase of my amazing life with smooth sailing. That’s how I want people to see me and to use their energy. 🙂
There are really only two emotions or ranges of e-motion also known as energy in motion and they are FEAR and LOVE. Love always feels better and love is always the answer. So the more others think of me with hopeful and awesome visions, the better for them and the better for me. See, we all win.
I hope that you too tap into leveraging your energy banks and remember sleep and rest are one of the best ways to restore your banks and naps are great for this too, just sayin 🙂
I have been thinking a lot lately about what makes a good health care provider and I am sure that there are many aspects but what comes to mind for me first and foremost, are KINDNESS & COMPASSION!
Since my recent diagnosis of Colon Cancer I have seen a lot of health care pros in various settings and when I see the kind ones, I always tell them how much I appreciate their kindness.
There have been so many that I have seen lately from Surgeons, Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, Naturopathic Doctors, Oncologists, Anesthesiologists, Physiotherapists and the list goes on. I take every chance I get to thank them for what they do and for their kindness and compassion.
I recently expressed to my oncologist whom I just met, that I thank him for his chosen career as I cannot imagine how challenging and difficult it is to be in his role. I also told him that he was very kind. He thanked me and said that my words were inspiring and that indeed that is probably the biggest reason people get into the health care field is because they are kind and compassionate and want to help, which made my heart smile. I can honestly say that I actually had compassion for him!
I can see how it would be very easy to burn out as the years go by, but of course there are rewards too but this blog post is not about that, it is just about my appreciation of kindness, compassion and confidentiality as well. It is so important for a patient to feel safe, and cared for, especially when in a newly vulnerable state which may include physical, mental, emotional and spiritual vulnerabilities and fears.
Cancer is a diagnosis like none other and until you have experienced it, you cannot describe the experience which is also very individual and different for each person but I can pretty well guarantee that there are a lot of similar terrifying emotions and thoughts that people generally experience. And this is where that kindness becomes extra important.
And we all have a role in being kind. I am being showered with so much love and support from so many people and I cannot express to you how WONDERFUL this feels to me! I say it is the wind beneath my healing wings and I so believe it. I am learning how to receive and it feels good. I am so grateful that there are people in my life to support me.
I have often talked in business groups and when I have been a guest on a radio show for example, the importance of building a network and that even in our personal life we require networks…. these help us in times of need and we can in turn be an important part of a support network for others. This is the gift of life and of caring and of kindness, empathy and compassion.
How Might You Help Those That You Care About?
On another note, I will be doing a future blog post about ways you can help those people in your life who are going through a scary diagnosis like cancer. It is a delicate state of affairs and there are ways to support that include holding the appropriate space and balance between supporting and matching what the person wants or needs. I am hoping that my insights might be helpful to others because I know that this whole thing can be very awkward. It is similar to not knowing what to say to console someone grieving…. anyhow stay tuned for that one.
And in closing thank you to all of the kind and caring health professionals and everyday ordinary people who make a difference in others people’s lives every day just by being kind. I LOVE YOU ALL!
On April 16th I had surgery to remove a cancerous mass that was blocking my colon and it went very well. I am healing from the surgery magnificently as I suspected I would 🙂
One of the things that I was really grateful for while at the hospital was that I have been doing daily yoga for the past 3.5 years.
This really helped me to be able to get out of bed and walk around even right on the first night after the surgery. It is important to get up and get moving so that one does not get blood clots. Every time I was able to get myself out of bed by myself reminded me of my gratitude for my yoga which has helped me so much in my flexibility and core strength.
Keep in mind that I have a wound from my pubic bone right up and through my belly button. It was around a 6 hour surgery and it was a big deal so I am grateful that I have healed so quickly as far as the surgery went and that I had the strength and flexibility to get myself moving so quickly. Seven days post op I was out driving and picking up groceries 🙂
I am already back to doing my daily yoga and am reminded that small efforts when it comes to our health really do make a difference.
I am excited to continue to share with you insights I have as I go along on this new journey. I take one day at a time and I rest when I need to. I also focus on things that bring me JOY and make me happy and blogging does this for me so stay tuned my friends 🙂 There is more to come!
Have a great day everyone!
Oh and I am back here editing this because people are asking me what I use for yoga. And I love Gaia! There are amazing yoga routines, movies, documentaries, mediations and more. You can check it out here:
“Remember that ‘ease’ is the opposite of ‘disease’ …. let go…let it flow… let healing happen with EASE..” Maggie Holbik
Healing & Disease
When we think of the word disease it means the lack of ease. So with that said, healing of any kind can benefit from ‘ease’… the opposite of disease.
What are some ways to add ease to your healing?
Let go.…. this is one of the first ways. Let go of the resistance to whatever is ailing you. Whether you have been recently diagnosed with something, or you have had an accident or set-back of some type, just relax and learn to lean into the acceptance of what is. We waste precious energy when we use it to try and analyze why something is happening to us or why we are not liking what is happening.
Our energies would be better spent focused on our healing and on allowing our healing to happen instead of using our precious energy stores to feel victimized or getting into the ‘why me’s’ 🙂
2. Know and believe that healing can be easy. For example, I am writing this blog post 2 weeks and 2 days post abdominal surgery where I have an incision from my pubic bone and up past my belly button and it has healed beautifully! Thirty five staples were removed two days ago and my wound is doing great.. perfectly healed and continuing to heal beautifully and with ease! I totally believe my body is amazing and that it can heal with ease and grace and it responds as such!
3. Trust. Trust in the divine process of healing and rejuvination. Our bodies are magnificent. The whole magnificance of creation is a miracle in itself, so why would we not continue to be a miracle throughout our entire lifetime?
When we trust in life itself, we trust in the power of our bodies, minds and spirits to heal. Trust is like a magic wand commanding it to be so. 🙂 Use trust along with ease and you will activate powerful healing forces that are available to and for you!
If you follow me at all when it comes to my nutritional beliefs you will know that I am a lover of fruit and becoming even more so.
I read an article yesterday talking about the body needing natural sugars and when it doesn’t get what it needs, it can cause cells to divide. You know what that means… Cancer! Now I am not going to go into any scientific references here because this is simply me talking about how much I believe in fruit to give us nourishment, nutrients and the natural sugars we need. I have written about this many times.
Today I wanted to share with you my fruit hack that is both pleasing to eat and better yet kid and hubby approved, which is why I now simply make a good sized pot of it later in the morning and leave it on the stove for that moment when my hungry daughter walks through the door after school and when hubby pops in the house sometime in the afternoon as he usually does. This of course, after I eat my delicious bowl of deliciousness. 🙂
Today’s ‘Fruit Soup’ as I call it has blueberries (always wild blueberries), chopped cantaloupe, a chopped apple from the neighbor’s apple tree, two mashed frozen bananas and some maple syrup. I do not have a daily recipe and anything goes. It is soup remember? lol and in soup anything that you have on hand works in this case. Today I threw in the maple syrup because I’m guessing that apple from the neighbor’s tree was a tad sour.
Throw everything together in a pot and simmer it down and then it’s done. It is just enJOY time then. And it is ALWAYS good. Everytime I eat it I feel my body saying “Wow this is amazing!”
Here are a few pics of the raw chopped start and then the simmered down result.
I hope you too start incorporating more of this life giving, life saving, body loving, nutritious, and delicious fruit into your daily diet.
Here are some links to more fruit advocacy posts if you want to dig deeper … Oh and one for my banana hack too. 🙂 That’s handy for sure. 🙂
We all know cancer is an epidemic and is running rampant in our world. I bet we have all been touched by cancer in some way. Whether ourselves personally, our loved ones, friends, or even our connections through social media and the world at large. It used to be a scary “C” word that was rarer to hear about, but now it is very common.
We are living in a toxic world with many variables and at times it can feel overwhelming when it comes to cancer prevention and the overall betterment of our health in general, but the good news is that there are things that we can do! Here are a few ideas that are easy to incorporate into our lives. And these are things we can do whether we have cancer or we are looking to prevent cancer.
Reduce our exposure to toxic products. We live in a world full of herbicides, pesticides, fungicides, toxic air fresheners, toxic cleaners, colognes, fragrances, heavy metals, toxic food, and more. The more we can sub out these types of products and threats and eliminate using them or being exposed to them the better.
2. Stay Hydrated One of the biggest health challenges is that most people are very dehydrated, all the way from young children to the elderly and in between. This is a very serious health challenge. Dehydration means that we are not moving out the toxins as easily and that we are getting thick blood. We do NOT want thick blood. No, No, No! I have written about thick blood in a prior blog post that you can read here:
There are so many reasons to increase our fruit and veggies intake and hydration is one of them. Fruits especially help to both hydrate and nourish the cells and organs as well as providing the natural sugars our livers and brains need to function. Think of your liver in particular. The fruits help it to function better and to be able to filter out toxins and get them out of the body. And don’t forget about the amazing micro-nutrients fruits and veggies provide like vitamins, minerals, phytonutrients, enzymes and more!
If you are interested in more details on the best foods and why for cancer prevention, here is a link to a detailed article by Marni Clark. Marni is a breast cancer expert and coach, and I enjoy her work immensely. Here is the link:
I really believe that there are 3 cornerstones to good health
. Eating functional and whole foods
. Exercise and
. Lowering Stress
Lowering stress means lowering the stress on the body as in toxic exposure, overwork, tiredness, abuse, as well as all of the mental stress we often refer to. Stress is much more complicated than we think of usually. When you think of stress, think of it like a rope. When too much stress is put on a rope, or the rope becomes frail and weak, it breaks!!! That is about as simple as it gets, so do whatever you can do reduce stress. I have written blogs posts on dealing with stress. You can find them here:
Try and find ways to incorporate more peace of mind in your life. This may involve things like forgiving yourself and others, letting go of the little things, releasing judgments, taking walks in nature and just anything that allows you to ‘feel’ better from moment to moment. If you need to get some help, never be afraid of stepping up to the plate when it comes to getting counseling, therapy, life coaching, or something of that nature. There are people who are there just for that purpose… to help. A great resource that I have come across is called “Life Coach Library” and it is a service online where clients and coaches can find a match for each other. Here is the link for that service if you are interested.
We all know that exercise and movement are hugely important to our health but when it comes to prevention of illnesses like cancer, exercise really helps to move the lymphatic system, which helps the body to clean up intercellular waste and remove toxins. This is very, very important, especially for prevention and in the case of a cancer patient having lymph nodes removed. It is then even more important to assist the body in moving the lymphatic fluid to encourage drainage of the intercellular waste.
At our wellness centre “Superior Shores Wellness” in Thunder Bay we offer a service to help with lymphatic drainage and movement. It is especially beneficial for those who don’t get a lot of movement for whatever reason or for those who have had lymph nodes removed as in the case of breast cancer. The service we provide is ‘Whole Body Vibration’ where the client stands on a base plate and using the vibration technology to vibrate the entire body. Wherever you live, if you can take advantage of a service like this, I highly recommend it.
Just walking also helps to move the lymphatics and helps to calm the mind as well as a host of other health benefits. A walk every day can have huge benefits!!!!
I hope you find these ideas helpful. As I write about often, when it comes to health, try not to think in terms of deprivation ie. what you can’t have or do, but turn it around to simply “What can I add in more of today that is good for my health?”. Just try to keep adding in more and more until eventually the scales themselves shift and you have naturally shifted to more good things. Keep it simple. Simple works.
Maggie Holbik.com is a Board Certified Nutritionist, Natural Nutrition Clinical Practitioner, Registered Nutritional Therapist, Certified Life Coach, Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach, and member in good standing of the Canadian Natural Nutrition Practitioners (CANNP). Maggie loves to help people to improve their wellness of body, mind and spirit. Simple strategies can have huge impacts. Contact Maggie below to inquire about any of her services or with any questions you may have or to sign up to her email list for her monthly newsletter. Also feel free to en-JOY Maggie’s other blogs.